To: GM@harboursquare.coop
cc: SWilson@HarbourSquare.coop
Date: November 1, 2025

Require Oksana to register her Authorized Occupant

We are on the same side with regards to Oksana adding me as an Authorized Occupant at Harbour Square after over 13 years of her noncompliance with the Harbour Square Bylaws.  Sorry that, as a Mensa member, I did not think of this idea earlier, back on October 10, 2012 when she signed the papers.  Duh.

Oksana wants me here, as the Gate House guards see when I drive Oksana out in our Mercedes.  Oksana tells me to drive to O Street so they don't see us driving back in.  When we walk to the Wharf restaurants, such as last night for Halloween, she insists that we walk out and in the south west entrance to avoid the Guards.  This charade has been going on for years.
https://Shaddock.net/Rick/Oksana/2025

Oksana and I have been 10 times to the end of the "Divorce Diving Board" only to back off at the final hearing without taking the plunge into the dating pool. 
https://Shaddock.net/Fred/case/Oksana/divorce/index.htm

This situation has put a strain on our friendship, since we first met 15 years ago when you were the Manager at Tiber Island Coop when Oksana and I lived there (2010-2012).  I have always appreciated your steady hand in fostering a fair community at Harbour Square, where I've been a resident for 22 years total (N-32 owner 2001-2010; S-316 co-owner since 2012).

All we need is a simple email to Oksana, and here is a suggestion to save you time.

From: GM@harboursquare.coop
To: OksanaShaddock@gmail.com
Date: November 3, 2025

It has come to our attention that for much of the time since October 10, 2012 you have been harboring at Harbour Square an unregistered occupant, namely your husband Frederick Shaddock. I have suggested to you to add him to the list and you have refused. You have continued to act "under the table" when everyone knows that he is your husband.  He is polite with the staff and has caused no problem.  But he needs to be authorized like everyone other long term resident.

If you were divorced and he was coming to Harbour Square against your will, of course we would defend you. But you are not, and seem to be very much the happy couple. I understand you have backed off from divorce 10 times.  So we are confused.  We are not willing to react to your changing moods.

I have asked nicely in the past, saying that I highly recommend you adding him to the Guest List.  But you did not.  So, now I have to make it a demand.  It is your responsibility to comply with the policies of Harbour Square, or leave.

As a result of your failure to follow the rules, it has taken my time and energy, plus our staff's to respond your requests to remove someone you invited.  There is no other Harbour Square resident who has taken so much time, and made so much commotion as you.  On two occasions, 9/11/2025 (2 Officers) and 10/27/2025 (3 Officers) the DC Metropolitan Police come to Harbour Square, embarrassing for community, have refused to remove him, and assert his right of residency.

You have also put us in an awkward position of not being able to accept his mail yet being required to by U.S. Mail Law 1701, which has a penalty for obstruction of up to 6 months in jail.  We will not be a party to breaking the law, and demand that you stop expecting this from us. . No other resident of the 477 units at Harbour Square have put us in such a position.  No other wife, or husband, has wanted their spouse to cohabitate - but as an unauthorized occupant.

Therefore, the Management Office, and the Board of Directors direct you to immediately add your husband to the list of Authorized Occupants, unless you can provide completed divorce papers with a judge ruling that you have exclusive use.  Until that time, we expect you to abide by the Bylaws, or terminate your membership in the Corporation.

There have been other issues such as your treatment of staff, such as on 11/19/2021 (Bridgette) and Lynn and Chase on 11/01/2019 (Lynne and Chase) which have drawn concern of the Board about your suitability as a member.

You have claimed over the years that he will not be living at Harbour Square, as if we did not know, and that turned out to be untrue again and again.  Sorry, but we no longer take your word on that.  We have been very lenient with you regarding enforcement of the Bylaws. This charade stops today.  We are here until 4:30 p.m.  Please bring Frederick with his identification to do what should have been done in 2012.  Or we will begin canceling your ownership.

Judy Tyrrell

How does that sound?

Frederick Shaddock
520 N Street SW, S-316
Washington, DC  20024
202-365-6100